Archive for August, 2014


Discouraged and ready to give up?

We have all had those times in our lives when we look back at all the hard work we have put into a project, a mission or even an individual and for years have been loyal to the completion of its purpose. Perhaps we have put in 60 plus hours a week for ten years or more and with what we perceive is little results we become discouraged, disappointed and perhaps even depressed.
Feeling like we have just been spinning our wheels is natural when one does not see the result of his or her efforts. With no firm evidence to support our efforts it can become difficult to continue in our quest.
If you are human you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Then there are those times when we see others shouldering the rewards of their efforts perhaps in full view of the public. Praise upon praise is bestowed upon them for all the hard work they have done. Perhaps they have been nominated for high awards for their achievements while you watch as they receive the wonderful applause of the public. Again, if we are human this can feel like a severe punch in the stomach when we realize that our efforts go unnoticed.
If I were to be completely honest I would have to admit that I have at times felt faint of my calling when I have stopped and looked back at the hours upon hours I have put into it only to have my work washed aside by the very people that I have felt should appreciate it the most. The temptation is to throw in the towel and give up. I mean what’s the use right?

So now that I have come clean and told on myself allow me to share with you what I am learning every day as I walk through this wonderful lesson called life.

How many times do I need to be reminded that what I am called to do is not about me? When will I learn that God is not impressed with my abilities but desires my availability?
Though I know this is true why do I fall into believing that tired old lie that states “My self-worth is based upon your approval of me”?

May I suggest that the reason this reoccurs with many of us is because we are challenged daily by the enemy of our soul. Call the enemy pride, self-loathing, defeat or even the Devil but the truth is the enemy is real and seeks to take us out, especially if we are about the business of doing what God has called us to do. It simply stands to reason that if daily we come under attack then daily we must renew our strength.
I’m reminded of some verses from the Good Book.
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward.” Col 3:23-24
“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. “And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” Matt 6:1-34
And perhaps this verse that really helps me to not give up:
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Gal 6:9
So, today as I once more allowed myself to believe the lie that my efforts didn’t matter, I turn to the truth of God’s word which teaches me where my eyes should be focused. On Him, on His grace, His love and His purpose, not my own.
If you are going through a time in your life where you feel like the efforts you are putting forth don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, allow me to encourage you by saying that simply is not the case. The truth is your Heavenly Father is blessed by your efforts, your willingness to do His will. He loves you and wants you to know that it’s alright to give up as long as you’re giving it all up to Him.
So as my wonderful and beautiful wife reminds me all the time, “Remember who and what you’re doing it for and know deep within your spirit that He sees all the love you are putting into your efforts and His heart is blessed.”

Serenity For You!
~The Monty’man


Do we need to know the difference between the heavy drinker & the alcoholic, the drug abuser and the drug addict?

There is definitely a difference between the heavy drinker, the drug abuser and the true alcoholic or drug addict. Some folks simply need some basic life skills and some growing up and they are able to quit or drink in moderation. These folks are not alcoholics. Others however can develop the allergy of the body and the obsession of the mind through genetics or they may be the person that crosses the line through abuse and becomes the real alcoholic or addict. This is why it is dangerous to suggest to anyone that they cannot become an alcoholic or addict unless they have inherited the gene. They can develop alcoholism or addiction through abuse of the substance. Not everyone does but some may. Therefore I never promote the use of alcohol or illicit narcotics in any form, casual use or otherwise. With the current trend of states legalizing marijuana it is ludicrous to suggest that this is a form of responsible thinking. It’s just not the wise thing to do.
When a person must use narcotics for the purpose of getting through the healing process due to surgery, everyone who is within throwing distance of that person needs to be made aware of the possibility that the individual may become chemically dependent and will need very specialized care in weaning off the drugs and follow-up after the drugs have been out of their system for some time. With today’s dirty opiate based pain medication (which may be needed) it is essential we become educated as to their proper use and their danger to the patient. Much care must be taken. The recovery community, the addict, alcoholic and the alcohol and drug user as well as everyone who takes a breath needs to be educated on these issues. Addiction is the number one health threat in our country. We need to know the difference between the heavy drinker and the alcoholic, the drug abuser and the addict. Why, so we can properly treat those who need to recover.

Serenity for You!
The Monty’man

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